Small towners may feel the unique bond that exists in a tight-knit, minority community. Varying perceptions by non-Jews and a wide range of self-definition by Jews.These factors raise issues in every facet of Jewish life, including dating.A commonality amongst this group is that they are open to secular activities such as bars, clubs, and movies.These tend to be individuals who strive to maintain a lifestyle according to the rules and guidelines of Halacha (Jewish law); often this is reflected in greater involvement in daily Torah learning and prayer. Unlike me, she hadn’t dreamed of meeting someone Jewish and having a Jewish wedding. I was only able to relax around non-Jewish women, because I didn’t feel the same pressure; that’s how I met, and fell in love with, my wife.
I resolved that I would only go out with Jewish girls. I attributed this to the fact that I was kind of nerdy: My extra-curricular activities included musical theater, video games, and Dungeons & Dragons, not exactly the types of things that made a guy popular with the ladies. I had numerous opportunities, on the other hand, to date non-Jewish women.
Then add to the mix the difference between growing up Jewish in a big city like New York, Chicago or Los Angeles and being raised in a small town.
Urbanites can take for granted the 24/7 availability of Jewish food, theater, educational and cultural organizations and houses of worship.
By Ellen Baskin Being Jewish in America means different things to different people in different places.
Jewishness is often felt as an identification with an ethnic and cultural group as much as with a religious faith.